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Repost: The relationship lie; primordial pain
Primordial pain refers to a fundamental basis of human existence and our unavoidable dependant relationship with another being; our dependency on our primary care giver; our parent.
It’s a fundamental truth that is present from the moment of our birth, that our relationship with mother (or father) is thus:
- I need you to live.
- Without you I will die.
- I cannot be without you.
This is a fundamental basis for relating; at the very core of our being. It’s both physiological and psychological.
And, it’s something that we then carry into our later lives. It’s not something we can necessarily shake off. It can generate feelings of fear and insecurity alongside utter despair, desolation and annihilation.
Have you ever felt completely alone? Have you had a relationship with a loved one that ended? By death or by choice?
I raise my hand, I have had this happen, oh boy have I, again and again, and it has this feeling of utter dread – it has this feeling of primordial pain, the fear of destruction. If I lose you, I lose myself. But, as adults though, that’s simply not true. We are fully self dependant.
It’s also a huge lie to enter into a relationship under the false belief that they will complete you and that you cannot be without them. Doing so is acting from primordial fear.
So the next time I lose someone special, the next time I feel that primordial pain, I’ll know what it is, and in knowing gain some perspective and control. I’ll recognise and greet the feeling, acknowledge it and in doing so lesson it.
Peace and love.
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Terrorism and trees
If a tree falls in a forest, and there is no one to hear it, does it make a sound?
I am pretty sure trees fall quite often, yet it is not something that I worry about. But, what would happen if a tree falling – like terrorism – were reported across every news outlet constantly for days and days? Imagine if we walked into stores and instead of terrorism, we saw newspapers depicting falling trees – the devastation caused, interviews with survivors and witnesses and experts discussing all the potential ways that trees could fall in future. We would probably become quite concerned about the issue.
This is exactly what happens with the media whenever something ‘news worthy’ occurs.
Recently, in the UK we suffered a terrorist attack. In truth it was quite minor with a handful of deaths. Now, I am in no way am I dismissing the trauma to those concerned but we need to keep this event in perspective.
The reality check
In 2015, Europe suffered 175 fatalities from terrorism [1]. In 2015 Europe suffered 26,000 road traffic fatalities [2]. Furthermore, according to research published in the Lancet it takes 29 minutes for 175 children to die from malnutrition in this world [3] – that’s 10 seconds per child death.
The media is responsible for propagating the irrational fear of terrorist attacks. The reality is that the world faces far greater problems. So please, let’s keep perspective. Even in the face of the hysterical publicity of events that, in reality, are not a major risk.
What concerns me
I vow to continue my life without fear of terrorism, however I do also vow to something to help poverty in this world. Something that kills far more people than terrorism.
Sources
[1] http://ec.europa.eu/transport/road_safety/specialist/statistics_en
[2] http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-22935692
[3] http://ec.europa.eu/transport/road_safety/sites/roadsafety/files/pdf/observatory/trends_figures.pdf
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